Love Letter To Breakup
You haven’t blogged much over the last two years—I understand why. You lived a reality that should only exist on screen and fiction.
Not real life.
Not your life.
Not anyone’s life.
April 2023:
The rug pulled from under your feet.
The roof stripped from your head.
The walls shattered from a deafening collapse.
Your family, home and life crumbled. You looked back one last time at the nest you’d built—now ashes. The empty house was still standing. Nothing had changed on the outside. Everything had shattered within.
A mirage… all a mirage. A facade. Gone up in smoke.
And YOU escaped alive.
With the support of two incredible sons, family, friends and professionals, you ploughed a path to ‘Discovery’ and realization. You discovered enough evidence to validate that nothing in your life over the last three decades was real except for your two sons. You unraveled 30 years over 10 months. Every blink washed away one deception. One more betrayal. No wonder you were so exhausted. Determination to unearth the extent of life’s reality fueled a fire to fight back.
You continued to pray. God sent his angels in the form of core and close family, friends, authors, professionals and a phenomenal Domestic Violence Advocate, Pam Stack, who taught you to take the narcissistic-psychopath by the horns, confront and battle the horrors.
Devastating horrors no woman should ever endure.
Then God handpicked another angel. Attorney, Damon Bivek. Damon replaced your pen with a sword, sheets of paper with a shield and examined all the proofs, akin to artillery, you loaded in weapons. Damon amplified your roar in the ‘Art of War’. He taught you to aim, pull the trigger and NOT fire.
“Because true strength,” he said, “evolves in silent strategy.”
The narc’s walls collapsed.
The roof stripped from the narc’s head.
The rug pulled from below the narc’s feet.
You looked back one last time at the life you’d built—burning to ashes. The narc-psych, was still standing. Nothing changed on the outside. His mask cracked. Splintered. Then exploded.
He shattered within.
Burned.
And YOU escaped alive.
With a strength, patience and perseverance you never knew you possessed, you conquered this narc-psych-demon and crushed till it cowered and whimpered back to the hole from where it had emerged 30 years ago—a snake devoid of its rattle.
Damon, attorney-knight-in-armor, introduced you to a new career, lit your path like a North Star, and you followed.
August 2023:
Five months ago, Life Coach Veena Dhandia, an older and wise sister-angel in Mumbai, India—also a certified life healer who has been working with you since you left the ‘nest-that-never-existed’—taught you how to rise, put one foot ahead of the other and walk. Then run…
She suggested I write a break-up letter to let go of the past and heal so I could move on.
Here I am writing to erase the fog of 30 years. To break away from the past.
Annu,
You and I have been talking since, but I don’t know how to let go because
You are my past.
I am your future.
I am You.
You are me.
A brave-heart lion and a golden dragon we gave birth to and raised together with pride… They are now fine young men with their own journey to healing and success ahead. The only true reality of the 30 years between us—our two golden boys.
Everything else—a mirage. All a mirage. A facade. Gone up in smoke.
But We made it out.
Alive.
You and I.
January 2025:
Grab my hand, Annu.
Take a leap of faith across the bridge of time.
Don’t look back. There’s nothing to return to. No ashes.
Think… How can we burn what didn’t exist in the first place?
A mirage… all a mirage. A facade. Gone up in smoke.
Now WE, survivors. Thrivers. We will use our experiences, skills and lessons learned to move on to the next chapter in our life. And build a new future. WE must continue to clear the fog for others to see a path forward.
We must forge ahead to serve others in jeopardy through literature
And now the legal system.
Annu,
Hold strong. Hold close your two dragon-bravehearts.
Your golden sons.
A new chapter,
The next book to self-empowerment is about to start…
Lots of Love
Anju
XOXOXOXOX
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